Love at Home
A One-Day Workshop with Oliver Bettany & Briony Greenhill
For anyone committed to building conscious, resilient, secure partnership - across all orientations, gender expressions, and relationship structures
Whispers of Harmony by KP Reynolds
Who We Are
Ollie Bettany is a humanistic counsellor, ecotherapist, teacher and founder of Wild Oak and The Wellspring men's mentoring community in South Devon. He has nearly 15 years of experience as a therapist and men's work facilitator, including specialised training in ecopsychology and nature-based practice and working with couples and groups. He brings his keen understanding of archetypal psychology, shadow work and soul to his work and his partnership with Briony.
Briony Greenhill is a collaborative vocal improvisation teacher who has spent a decade teaching embodiment and connection through music. She has trained extensively in Nonviolent Communication (including with Kelly Bryson), spent years in the Network for a New Culture, completed month-long intensive trainings with the Culture Catalyst Network @ Life Itself and Tamera, and has deep roots in conscious community and relational practice.
Why We're Teaching This
We met at 42 and 44. This is each of our second marriages. And for both of us, this is our first experience of secure attachment.
Between us, we have decades of direct experience with avoidant, anxious, and disorganized attachment styles. We know what it's like when trauma plays out in attempts to love. The unconsciousness, the unskillfulness, the projection and blame of anxieties we couldn't own. The instability. The years of avoidance. The trying to build relationship, failing, hurting, healing, learning - seeing couples therapists, 1:1 therapy, reading books, doing the work.
The mess of trying to love and failing to sustain partnership over time.
We know the longing: the heart wants to love, the body wants to make love, and the soul wants integration - to make love with the person the heart loves.
After years of that ardent longing, we've finally found our way here. Now, nearly four years in with a young son, we're living the daily reality of Love at Home.
This workshop is born from that journey - and from our commitment to share what we've learned so that drama can become joy, hearts and souls can grow, children can grow up in secure loving regulated homes, and our trauma-fear-violence culture can melt into power-with, regeneration, pleasure and love.
The Day
This one-day workshop introduces core practices for conscious, resilient partnership, organized around three essential qualities: Honest, Safe, and Sexy.
Morning Session (10am - 1pm): FOUNDATIONS & HONESTY
Building Safety Together
Opening circle and intention setting
The Pause - creating space before reactivity
Understanding attachment styles - a brief introduction
How our patterns show up in relationship
Learning to Speak from Self
I-statements and NVC foundations
Reflected check-ins practice
"May I reveal myself" - vulnerability as gateway to intimacy
"I have a story about you" - working with projection
"I'm noticing..." - interpersonal meditation
Practice: Speaking what's true without attack
Lunch Break: 1pm - 2pm - you can bring a packed lunch or get it from the on-site cafe - plant based, flexible pricing
Afternoon Session (2pm - 5pm): BOUNDARIES & EROS
Reclaiming Our Edges (2:00 - 3:30)
Co-regulation basics - asking for help when dysregulated
Yes and No embodied exercises
Understanding where boundaries dissolve
Love languages - how we give and receive
Integration of Body, Heart & Soul (3:30 - 5:00)
Heart humming - embodied connection practice
Body honouring - Bringing reverence to our sexuality
Introduction to erotic blueprints
Elderberry song - musical practice for connection
Closing circle and next steps
Who This Workshop Is For
You're tired of drama consuming the energy that could go toward love
The child rearing and domesticity has sapped a lot of the nectar
You want to understand your attachment patterns and co-create secure attachment in love
You're in a relationship and want to help it flourish
You're single and want to prepare yourself for secure partnership - if so, please come with a good friend
You've tried to love and it hasn't worked - and you want to understand why
You're curious about relational practices that help love flourish
All sexual orientations, gender expressions, and relationship structures welcome - whether you're straight, gay, monogamous, polyamorous, or exploring. This isn't about pushing any particular model; it's about building security within whatever form your love takes.
This is for folks who are in relationship with one another; if you’re single, please come with a trusted friend who is also interested in learning tools to help love flourish; you will work on your friendship!
Who This Is NOT For
This one-day workshop may not be for you if your relationship is at a major crisis point. This is because the group format may not provide sufficient safety and holding for you and your partner to get something positive out of the day. If in doubt, please get in touch.
What You'll Take Away
Core practices you can use immediately in your relationship(s)
Greater understanding of your own attachment patterns
Simple tools for honest, safe communication
Embodied practices for connection
A taste of what's possible when we bring consciousness to partnership
If there is sufficient interest, we will be running a longer programme in the future that allows for deeper exploration and integration of these practices.
Practical Details
When: Saturday 23rd May 2026
Where: Moor Imagination Center, Buckfastleigh, Devon, UK
Time: 10am - 5pm
Investment: £40-£60-£80 - 3 tier pricing - cost per person.
What to Bring
Packed lunch or buy from on site cafe
Notebook and pen
Comfortable clothes for movement
Open heart and willingness to be honest with yourself
NB: while we turn towards sexuality, this isn’t a sexuality workshop - we won’t be making out in the workshop :)
For questions or if you're unsure whether this workshop is right for you, please contact ollie@wildoak.org.uk.
Blessings on your intimite journeys and living love at home!